That date was on a Thursday. By Saturday — after we'd both spent Friday scrambling to tie up any loose ends that might interfere with us spending every spare second together for the rest of "who knew?" — we were ON with no looking back.
To honor our shared journey, I thought I'd do one of those sweet tribute posts listing good stuff about my DH. I'll keep the items topical to the blog's theme.
19 Things I Love About My Husband That Led to My Wanting to Start a Family with Him, Helped Me Cope with IF, and/or Served as the "Positives" I Focused On This Past Year to Keep Me from Killing Him (or Worse)
- He has never said an unkind thing to me or tried to humiliate or "stick it to me." Not in public and not in private. Not ever.
- I can still see the total devotion on his face as he held a newborn niece for the first time and cured her hiccups by draping her over his arm (tummy first, her head supported with his hand and chest) and tapping out a simulated heartbeat on her back to help slow her breathing. He just made that up on the fly. The baby's mother, grandmother, and aunt-to-be (me) all swooned, and we still talk about it behind his back 15 years later.
- His smarts and dry wit make me happy.
- At family gatherings, he'll patiently play/talk with the nieces and nephews for hours on end.
- He was my "nurse" through two lengthy recovery periods after major surgery, and each time — despite knowing him as well as I do — I was blown away by the amazing level of care he provided.
- He makes great waffles, pancakes, French toast, biscuits, and pizza dough.
- I never have to wonder whether he's telling me the truth.
- When it was time to do his fertility testing, he acted like a grownup — not a baby.
- He was often pretty quiet at the clinic but came alive during strategy/statistic/scientific discussions with the REs.
- He's able to laugh about such things as bad sperm and bad clinic porn.
- Once while he unpacked from a business trip, my heart soared upon seeing a baggie full of Mu.cinex and a few pairs of brand-new, moisture-wicking, "crucial area"–cooling underwear. He'd done all that on his own.
- Although thoroughly skeptical about potential benefits, he completely backed and encouraged my use of acupuncture, supplementation, diet changes, and meditation during treatment cycles.
- For 2 years prior to starting IVF, he traveled a lot — but he always made it his business to make it home for the ol' fertile window. (Such that it was.)
- He would have been content to not pursue fertility treatments at all. But he supported every last minute of my need to push on. He made my need, his need.
- Each time I was pregnant, he immediately jumped into "What can I do for you?" mode.
- The dog has a giant, obvious crush on him (and vice versa). It's very cute.
- He gamely takes on the list of items to fix and problems to solve that my parents/his parents present to him each time we visit.
- He lives to try to make me do a spit take.
- A longer anecdote from the day I knew that I would always choose being with DH over the alternative: One Saturday about a year and a half into our relationship, I felt crazy-desperate for some alone time. I decided to go bra shopping. Solo. Then-boyfriend DH thought he'd tag along, but I said no for the first time in our history. This was fine with him, of course, and he set out walking to his downtown office to occupy himself till I was done. About 19 minutes later, I passed him in the car and gave him a beep. He waved, looking cheerful; I felt good that he felt good instead of left out. Soon I was parked, in the store, and standing blissfully alone in Lingerie, thinking beyond bras to perhaps socks, makeup, and even calling a friend for coffee. As I zeroed in to touch — and I do not exaggerate — my very FIRST bra of interest, I felt a familiar hand on my back. My heart actually sank for a split second. Guess who???!!!??? Why, it was my beloved. The one I'd tried to ditch. The man I would joyfully marry down the road. He grinned, hit me with his full-of-adoration brown eyes and said, "Surprise! I saw you drive by and figured I'd pop in for a quick hi. Are you enjoying your time alone?" With that I realized just how glad I was to see him . . . even when I didn't want to see him. Being with him felt right, as it always had and always would.
What a beautiful and loving tribute for your DH - congratulations on cultivating a wonderful marriage!
What a great list of things about your DH. My anniversary was June 11th. Congratulations on 19 years together!!
Congratulations on 19 years! I love your list! It's beautiful! My favorite was the last one. So sweet!
Awww!! This is so sweet! Happy 19th!
That was such a great list... I hope your DH read it (I imagine he did). :) You obviously have a keeper there.
What's not to love about a man that can skillfully make so many yummy bread products!
19 years is something to be proud of. Congratulations!
What an awesome list. Our 5 year was on the 12th.
Congratulations. Surviving IF, or at least, learning to live with it, is such a testament to your love.
That is the sweetest damn list I think I have ever read...Congratulations on such a fabulous love...
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